Just after Christmas, my middle schooler went to visit family for a few days in North Carolina and I decided it was time to do the unthinkable, enter without knocking and give her bedroom a makeover. Actually, I swapped my preteen's bedroom with her little sister's to give her more space and a few needed updates. The caveat that almost drove a major wedge between us: I refused to paint the new room (it's Benjamin Moore's Elephant Pink). I tried to convince my preteen that with the right color . . .